Battling Parenting Woes with Help from Boys Town!

Reading is and always has been a passion of mine. So when I became a mom, I was anxious to get my hands on all kinds of reading materials that would help me be the best parent I could be. As my daughter has grown, so has my reading list. I firmly believe that kids who see their parents reading will be more likely to read, so I take every opportunity to read texts from a variety of sources. While I still have quite the stack of parenting books, I also turn to the resources on the internet more often than not. Boys Town is full of fantastic parenting resources offering helpful tips and advice for this crazy journey of parenting.

Dealing with the Terrible Twos

My daughter turned 2 over the summer, and we have definitely been dealing with shades of the terrible twos. There are days with full blown tantrums, endless arguments and lots of sass. These days are also full of huge belly laughs, hugs and kisses and endless smiles. I sometimes feel like I need 8 arms to put out the fires left and right. Just when we seemed to get hitting under control, the gimme-gimmes picked up. I refuse to be overwhelmed by it, so I have been trying lots of resources to help us with each battle we face. Reading can solve everything, right? It can be difficult to deal with massive toddler mood swings, so I was grateful when I got the opportunity to work with Boys Town to learn some great strategies for dealing with toddler tantrums.

Boys Town

For 100 years, Boys Town has been offering love, support and education, not just to at-risk children, but also to families all over. They are a non-profit charity that believes that every child deserves a future, and they offer research backed tips and advice to help parents online, in homes and in schools. As a teacher and a mom, I love that they offer actionable advice for parents, curated from a team of psychiatrists, psychologists and parenting experts.

Since tantrums are my biggest parenting struggle right now, I decided to give their Toddler Tantrums email series a try. I was pleased that the introduction to the series recognized that tantrums are inevitable. We can’t completely avoid toddler tantrums, because they are just trying to work out all of these big emotions, and they don’t yet know how. Each issue contains a teaching activity (which speaks right to my teacher heart), and social skills to teach to your kids.

Learning Together

My big takeaway from the first email was about how children’s brains work, and how we need to alter how we talk to them to foster understanding. This was a big eye opener for me, because my daughter looks and speaks at a level much older than her age, so it is easy for me to forget sometimes that she is only 2. Even though I had studied child development in school, how easily I had forgotten this in day to day life! (Isn’t that always how it works with the things you learn in school?)

Once I started putting the tips into practice, it completely changed my perspective on how I talked to my daughter. I try to remember to speak in smaller pieces, with direct and simple language. She may talk like a little adult, but her brain isn’t prepared to fully understand long conversations.

When she ran off during a visit to the zoo, I called her back to me. Normally, this would result in a meltdown on her behalf because she wanted to do whatever she wanted. Instead, I used short and simple language to tell her why we needed to go the other way, and she came right over. (After I thanked her for listening and told her it made me happy, she responded “My pleasure Mommy”. When I picked my jaw up off the floor and asked her where she learned that, she named her new favorite British cartoon. That’s what happens when you let your toddler watch British TV!).

I have been so pleased with my experience with the email series. She wasn’t feeling well this week, so we had a tough time with tantrums. However, my new perspective on handling her tantrums definitely helped me to keep a level head and deal with them as they were happening.

Experience Your Own Parenting Win

Boys Town offers tons of quality resources for parents who are dealing with the issues that come with parenthood. Each weekly email includes an easy teaching activity as well as social skills that you can teach your kids. The email series topics include:

  • Potty Training
  • Toddler Tantrums
  • Teen Discipline
  • Success in School
  • Tween Discipline
  • Sleep Issues
  • Kids and Technology
  • Anti-Bullying

Parenting is hard. Kids don’t come with a manual. Luckily there are amazing resources out there to help us as we navigate this journey. Check out the tips, tools and advice available at Boys Town to help you address your parenting questions!

18 Comments

  • Magen

    October 7, 2017 at 2:06 pm Reply

    This is some great tips. Raising my son has been a wild ride. I knew nothing about boys until he was born. Now I’m a single mom rocking mom life.

    • Vicki

      October 7, 2017 at 7:49 pm Reply

      It’s definitely a difficult journey! But the best one to be on!

  • Rakhi Parsai

    October 7, 2017 at 2:25 pm Reply

    Parenting can be a seriously a daunting task, especially for first-time parents and, to have places like Boy town to go to seems like all the prayer fulfilled. Lovely posts.

    • Vicki

      October 7, 2017 at 8:02 pm Reply

      Thanks! It is so helpful to have amazing parenting resources like this!

  • Dada

    October 7, 2017 at 2:26 pm Reply

    Boys town seems like a great help for all the parents out there! I receive something similar to Boys Town every mont here i Switzerland. My daughter just turn two and so far I have “everything” under control but I feel that she start to want it her way or the highway more and more.

    • Vicki

      October 7, 2017 at 8:03 pm Reply

      Oh definitely! There are some days where I feel totally in control, and other days she definitely isn’t as agreeable!

  • Virginia Krosel

    October 7, 2017 at 3:16 pm Reply

    I’ve been more stressed with my three-anger than when he was a terrible two. I needed to show this to my husband because he thinks our son is the only one who throws tantrums. I will definitely be checking out Boys Town for advice!

    • Vicki

      October 7, 2017 at 8:04 pm Reply

      My mom always told me that three was worse than two with my sister and I! I hope you find Boys Town helpful!

  • Sarah Sarahsfoodandfunnyfarm.com

    October 7, 2017 at 3:32 pm Reply

    Great info. I too am about to embark on the terrible twos adventure. Will keep this in mind

    • Vicki

      October 7, 2017 at 8:04 pm Reply

      I hope it is helpful to you!

  • Kim J

    October 7, 2017 at 8:24 pm Reply

    I didn’t even know that this existed! I wish I knew about this sooner, my daughter has went through her phase of tantrum and as a Mom it can be overwelming. Now that I have another little one this is a great resource as a helping hand,thanks for sharing.

    • Vicki

      October 7, 2017 at 8:28 pm Reply

      I’m so glad it’s helpful! It is definitely helping me with our tantrum situation!

  • Katie @ Book Ink Reviews

    October 7, 2017 at 9:45 pm Reply

    My daughter is in the thick of learning how to throw tantrums. Thankfully they are incredibly short lived, but it can be terrible in public! This is awesome.

    • Vicki

      October 7, 2017 at 10:35 pm Reply

      Yes! It’s like they wait to do them at the worst times in public! My daughter laid down on the floor at a wake last week!

  • Amanda Elize

    October 9, 2017 at 10:35 am Reply

    This seems like an amazing resource! So appropriate for parents with young children. I like how you mentioned that it points out that tantrums are inevitable! Makes me feel like it’s not my fault! Lol

    • Vicki

      October 9, 2017 at 12:16 pm Reply

      Right? That part helped me a lot! We can’t stop them from having tantrums, but we can help them through them!

  • Stephanie

    October 29, 2017 at 10:59 am Reply

    That email series sounds really helpful. My son is just approaching toddlerhood now and it’s incredible how big his emotions are sometimes! I took a similar parenting class that has really helped a lot.

    • Vicki

      October 29, 2017 at 1:08 pm Reply

      Their emotions are out of control sometimes! We have found the Moodsters toys and books to be really helpful. Definitely recommend checking them out!

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